Your worst fears have just came true – you are now a widow, single and very much alone. Although you have friends, family and children around offering you constant support, you feel stranded, confused, hurt and afraid. You are starting to ask the questions you never thought you’d have to say. What becomes of life now? How will I raise my children? Will I ever love again? What will happen to my finances? Who do I talk to?
It’s not an easy time to go through for anyone. The pain from losing a spouse runs deep. You will be going through a very rough time in your life from this moment on, and the best thing you can do is remember this: It is normal for you to go through stages of grief, sorrow, indifference and even anger. All of those emotions are necessary in the process of moving on after the loss of a loved one.
Your heart needs time to heal. Not to forget, because you can never replace the memories and experiences you shared with your spouse. Rather, the heart needs time to find peace and acceptance of the death of your beloved.
You need to lower your self expectations. Don’t try to force to be better right after the funeral. Allow yourself to cry and mourn, and talk to a great friend if you feel the need. You can join a widow support group and meet up with people who truly understand and sympathize, do outdoor activities, or start a hobby. Just keep yourself busy and moving forward, while simultaneously allowing yourself time to come to terms with your grief.